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Hurting or Healing Through the Holidaysby Sandi Schantz Send Feedback to Sandi Schantz Grieving takes time and energyMore Details about Grieving takes time and energy here.
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It doesn't matter whether your loved one died this month, this year or last year. Life isn't the same, holidays are not the same, and you are not the same. Your family and friends want to include you in their holiday celebrations. They long to see you with a smile or hear you laugh again. They all mean well. Only you, who are caught in the grieving process, can determine when you are ready to be with family and friends again. It is alright to decline going to parties, dinners and even family gatherings. It is alright to not celebrate and not carry on the usual traditions. You need to be honest with yourself though, why you are choosing to not participate. If the loss is too fresh, and all you can do is cry and console the ache in your heart or arms, then it might be too soon. You have the right to tell anyone that you are just not up to the festivities of the season. True friends and family should understand. Maybe, you need to do some things different this year. Have the family gathering some place different than usual. Have the family meet at a different time, do something as a family for someone else. If, you find comfort and peace in maintaining the traditions you've done over the years, then take pleasure in doing them. Depending on what brings you peace and comfort will determine what you will do with your time. Some people love the memories, some can't go there yet. Some love to decorate, some want to hibernate through the holidays. Some can't stand to be home, some can't stand the thought of leaving home. Some find comfort in visiting the cemetery, some just can't return there. It's okay to buy ornaments, engrave on candles, bells, ornaments, give donations in honor of a loved one, plant flowers, plant trees, put a memorial in the paper, attend a memorial service. It is ok to talk about your loved one, share memories of your loved one. What ever you do....however you decide to spend these days.... Take care of yourself. Eat healthy; get plenty of rest (but 18 hours a day is not healthy). Remind yourself to get up each day. Try to set yourself a goal for the day. It might just be getting dressed. Attend to your personal needs. (Bathe, Shower, Shampoo, and Brush teeth) If you don't feel able to pay the bills, ask someone you trust to sit with you and help make sure you take care of these necessary things. There are friends and family who want to help you but don't know how to help or if their help is needed or wanted. I am sorry for your broken, hurting heart. I pray for peace for you during these difficult days when the world seems so up and you feel so down. Grieving takes time and a lot of energy. You can't go around it, over it or under it. We each, at some point in time, will walk through the valley of the grieving. We will survive, but we are changed people, having gone through this experience. Leave your loved one's pictures up. I don't want you to ever forget. Much as you are changed after this loss, you are who you are because of who was in your life!! www.helpinghandspublications.com
Sandi is a graduate of Indiana State University's School of Nursing with a Bachelor's Degree. As a Christian, Nurse, Wife, Mom, Grandma and foster parent she brings a variety of perspectives to light. She spent many years working labor and delivery and became a bereavement counselor. She does public speaking on child abuse, grief and death, foster care and health related topics entwined with scripture/christian living. She has designed "A Medical History and Health Diary" for all ages.
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